{"id":840,"date":"2014-10-29T10:15:19","date_gmt":"2014-10-29T10:15:19","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/1078847117.n109608.test.prositehosting.co.uk\/?page_id=840"},"modified":"2014-12-22T18:18:35","modified_gmt":"2014-12-22T18:18:35","slug":"childhood-abuse-counselling","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/talkmebetter.co.uk\/?page_id=840","title":{"rendered":"Childhood Abuse Counselling"},"content":{"rendered":"<h1>Counselling for Childhood Abuse: Change Is Possible.<\/h1>\n<p>\nI started my professional career working in the field of <em>childhood abuse counselling<\/em>.  As a survivor of past abuse I have a particular sensitivity to the issues.   If you wonder if you or your partner&#39;s experience of childhood was &#39;abuse&#39; then read on&#8230;..<br \/>\n<em>Abuse in childhood is defined as<\/em>\n<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>\n<p>\n\tEmotional and or physical neglect\n\t<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li>\n<p>\n\tPhysical abuse including excessive physical discipline\n\t<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li>\n<p>\n\tSexual abuse and trauma including inappropriate touching\n\t<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>\nTo experience any or a combination of these can make us more vulnerable to emotional distress later in life.  Oftentimes the symptoms in adulthood are masked by compensatory behaviours &#8211; excessive reliance on alcohol or illegal drugs, uncontrollable anger, emotional distance &#8211; always keeping people at arms length.<br \/>\nParadoxically, sometimes the effects work in the opposite direction &#8211; with survivors of painful pasts being very sensitive to the moods and needs of others often in very self sacrificing ways.<br \/>\n<em>Common symptoms of a dysfunctional past are:<\/em>\n<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>\n<p>\n\tHaving feelings of worthlessness or unlovability\n\t<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li>\n<p>\n\tFinding people take advantage of you or mistreat you\n\t<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li>\n<p>\n\tMisusing alcohol or drugs or choosing partners who do\n\t<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li>\n<p>\n\tHaving an unhealthy relationship with food\n\t<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li>\n<p>\n\tWorkaholism and being excessively driven to succeed in everything\n\t<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li>\n<p>\n\tDistrusting others and finding intimacy difficult\n\t<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li>\n<p>\n\tSelf destructive behaviours and suicidal thoughts\n\t<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li>\n<p>\n\tA pattern of unstable or unsatisfactory relationships with loved ones\n\t<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li>\n<p>\n\tFinding healthy assertiveness difficult\n\t<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li>\n<p>\n\tExplosive or destructive anger\n\t<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>\nIf you or your partner are experiencing any of the above symptoms in a way that interferes with the quality of your life or has come at a cost to you in the past, then it could help you to look at what it is that drives these behaviours.  We can&#39;t change the past but we can end the destructive behaviours and work in new more functional and healthy ways.\n<\/p>\n<h3>Change is possible.  Life can be better.<\/h3>\n<p><a href=\"..\/contact-alex-drummond-counsellor-cardiff\/\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"..\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/10\/CBT-counsellor-Cardiff-contact-300x63.jpg\" alt=\"contact abuse counsellor cardiff\" width=\"300\" height=\"63\" class=\"aligncenter size-medium wp-image-979\" srcset=\"https:\/\/talkmebetter.co.uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/10\/CBT-counsellor-Cardiff-contact-300x63.jpg 300w, https:\/\/talkmebetter.co.uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/10\/CBT-counsellor-Cardiff-contact-900x191.jpg 900w, https:\/\/talkmebetter.co.uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/10\/CBT-counsellor-Cardiff-contact-1024x218.jpg 1024w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>\n<strong>To find out more try the following link:<\/strong>\n<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>\n<p>\n\t<a href=\"http:\/\/www.schematherapy.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"schema therapy\">Schema Therapy<\/a>\n\t<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>\nA derivative of Cognitive Behavioural therapy which I have found to be particularly effective for people with a painful childhood history.<br \/>\n<strong>A couple of books you might like to try <\/strong>\n<\/p>\n<p>\n&nbsp;\n<\/p>\n<p><d1><\/p>\n<dt><a href=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.co.uk\/exec\/obidos\/ASIN\/0452272041\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Re-inventing Your Life\">Re-inventing Your Life<\/a><\/dt>\n<dd><a href=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.co.uk\/exec\/obidos\/ASIN\/0452272041\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Reinventing your life\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"..\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/10\/reinvent-187x300.jpg\" alt=\"schema therapy book\" width=\"87\" height=\"144\" class=\"aligncenter size-medium wp-image-1110\" \/><\/a><\/dd>\n<dt><a href=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.co.uk\/exec\/obidos\/ASIN\/0553814826\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Toxic Parents\">Toxic Parents &#8211; escape the legacy<\/a><\/dt>\n<dd><a href=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.co.uk\/exec\/obidos\/ASIN\/0553814826\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Toxic Parents\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-373\" src=\"..\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/11\/toxic.jpg\" alt=\"book image toxic parents\" title=\"toxic\" width=\"88\" height=\"140\" \/><\/a><\/dd>\n<dt><a href=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.co.uk\/exec\/obidos\/ASIN\/1841190810\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Overcoming Childhood Trauma\">Overcoming Childhood Trauma<\/a><\/dt>\n<dd><a href=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.co.uk\/exec\/obidos\/ASIN\/1841190810\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Overcome childhood trauma\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-thumbnail wp-image-374\" src=\"..\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/11\/trauma-101x150.jpg\" alt=\"childhood abuse: overcome child abuse book\" title=\"trauma\" width=\"101\" height=\"150\" \/><\/a><\/dd>\n<p><\/d1><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Counselling for Childhood Abuse: Change Is Possible. I started my professional career working in the field of childhood abuse counselling. As a survivor of past abuse I have a particular sensitivity to the issues. If you wonder if you or your partner&#39;s experience of childhood was &#39;abuse&#39; then read on&#8230;.. 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